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Wednesday, February 15, 2012

My Primary relationship isn't Primary anymore!

Question: Due to life circumstances, suppose the primary/central relationship becomes a lesser connection in a non-inclusive triad? How do you handle such a situation?

Answer from PP:
In a non-inclusive triad (or more simply, a "V") the relationships between the hinge person and their partners would be independent. If one of those was a primary relationship that partner may have expectations of time and resources that will be challenged if the hinge person feels the relationship is no longer primary. Addressing the situation would be the hinge person renegotiating the relationship with the primary. Depending on results, there could well need to be another negotiation with the other partner (Secondary?).
I suggest negotiating first with each partner independently to determine the scope of the relationship, then as a group to ensure time and resource needs are met for everyone. 


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